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Joanie Higgs's avatar

Along this line, I watched a satisfying video today by Nigel Watson on YouTube 21 minute watch in which he confronts a (virologist) commenter with the sorry truth of himself as one who stayed silent. https://youtu.be/RPztVV0vXVY?si=q5MJ-cPnUjPrwbW2

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Exactly.

Forgiveness can only conceivably happen when there is an actual apology, which to be actual must include::

1. An articulated understanding of what you have done;

2. An expressed contrition for it;

3. And a request for forgiveness.

The demand to “forgive and forget” without a true apology—now being seen across the globe, such as the recent piece in The Atlantic—is precisely what serial abusers do.

They gaslight and demand forgiveness of those they have abused without actually apologizing; in this case, demanding that we “forgive and forget” and asking “why can’t we move beyond this” and erroneously asserting “hey, it’s Christian to forgive, no?” Et cetera. Pure gaslighting.

But of course, just as with the serial abuser, no actual apologies will ever be forthcoming.

Why? Because they aren’t really sorry. And they have no real intention of stopping.

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